I'm a pretty awesome human being, or else you wouldn't be reading this blog.

That being said, you have two individuals to thank for me- my parents. Because of them i am who i am today, so lets get started on this story shall we?


It all started with a cup of sugar. My mother lived across from a guy named Mike, whom she knew very well as well as his wife. She see's a really cute guy go into Mike's house that she has never seen before, it's a really small town. Then Mike's wife calls and tells her that Mike's friend, Joe is in town.  So she goes over with the pretense of needing a cup of sugar to "make cookies" and starts to talk with Mike and his friend walks into her view. "Well, aren't you attractive!" Exclaims my mother with all of her latin charm. My dad raised his eyebrows and smiled, and 30 something odd years they are still together.

If you ask my mother about this story she tells it all no nonsense, like what else was i supposed to say to him? then my dad winks at her and smiles. My mother is a firm believer of speaking her mind and my father is a firm believer of adventures. I think that their relationship is their favourite adventure.

Carol. 

CARRRRRROOOOOOOOOOOLA. As my grandmother or uncles yell at her. She's one of my favourite humans, and bless that woman. Bless her. She stands around 5'4, but a terrifying kind of 5'4. She is every introverts nightmare, and i love her for that. I love that she speaks her mind, is loud, and loves to love people. She always calls me after a new Doctor Who so that we can discuss what happened, I always call her when i am walking from class to work or from work to home, and technology is the bane of her existence. If you know her you are better off for it, because this woman inspires you to be bold. This woman inspires you to do what is right and to hold true to who you are. She came to Utah my first year out here and looked around at most of the girls, turns to me and says, "Don't you dare be like that. You always be yourself no matter what". Psh, then she gives me grief because 1/2 of my shirts are animal shirts. Double standards much.

My mother and i didn't always get along, i was a pain in her side. Still am, believe me. My mother and i are a lot alike so we butt heads a lot. Let me tell you something though, i am so thankful for our relationship because we fought to get where we are now. My mother is one of my best friends and knows absolutely everything going on in my life, i talk with her at least 4 times a week. She is my support system and has taught me so much about the kind of mother i want to be. She is one of the strongest people i know, i strive to be even half of how strong she is. She has faced so many trials with my father and they have worked together to face them head on. She is fiercely loyal. Mama bear to the MAX. I admire her for that, and loyalty is one of my fortes because of her.

I know without a doubt in my mind that my mother loves me. She says it often and she shows it in her own way. I know that without a doubt that the most important thing to my mother is her family. She is there as soon as we need her, she listens to her children, and she is such a rock in our family. She supports all of us with our dreams and is always helping us be creative. I hate craft stores because of her, but i'm warming up to them. She cultivated such an artsy soul inside of me- always helping me to have a haven to be myself. She is pupusas, the smell of flowers, craft stores, a lover of people and warm fuzzy socks. All of us love her, even though we dont say it or show it as much as we need to.

Story time: A couple years ago i was having a really hard time with depression and anxiety and when my mother found out she and my father moved me back home to Oregon. I hated it at the time and that was one of the hardest summers of my life. My parents got me the help that i needed even though i wasn't the most cooperative person in the world, because it was hard. My mother pushed me to face my struggles and to grow in ways that i didn't even know were possible. I didn't know what i needed at the time but my parents stayed close to the Spirit and prayed about what to do that was best for me. I am so thankful for loving parents who pushed me to understand myself more and helped me grow as a person. They are honestly so prime.


Joseph. 

Joe. VIIEEEEEJOOOOO. That's what my mom calls him. It means old man in Spanish and he always responds with WHAT? because my dad is basically deaf. Although he is deaf, he hears what he wants to. He's an imp. My father sets the standard for all the men that come in and out of my life. He is a no nonsense type of man as well who gets the job done. He has rough hands because he is always working with them, watches a lot of fighting like UFC, enjoys The Eagles, and is one of the most playful souls ever. My sister and i tackle him everytime we are around, to which he responds by beating us, we whine, then mom goes "JOSEPH." and he shrugs and says that we started it. Knuckle head is a perfectly normal insult. He tells jokes a lot or makes puns and then sits there laughing at them himself if people don't appreciate them. He thinks he is the funniest guy ever, and he is. He can't get through a funny story without laughing and i love him for it. He is a really good story teller! I love just being around my dad, because i don't feel like i have to fill the silence. It's a comfortable kind of silence as he works on cars, works in the yard, or is working in the front. He has taught me to fix things in really simple ways and how to view everything as a solution to a problem.

When my father speaks, you listen. I know without a doubt that he is the Patriarch of our family. We go to him and my mother with everything in our lives and they help us in any way that they can. Family is the foundation of my Father. I remember countless weekends in Eastern Oregon helping my grandma around the yard and then up at the ranch. My father is a silent helper. I feel like my fathers slogan should be See a Need, Fill a Need. I try to emulate that. I remember one night at Winco this single mother was trying to juggle a small child and packing a plethora of groceries. Winco runs are my dad and i's adventures. So, i am packing and look up to find my dad and he is helping this woman pack her groceries as she tries to wrangle the small child. I watch as he smiles at the child and makes small talk with the woman and when he is done packing her groceries he wishes her a good night and comes back and finishes ours without another word. Those are the little acts of service that my father always performs.

I remember coming home crying because my Home Ec class was horrible. Obviously i missed that gene with my mother always crafting it up and my father being able to do absolutely anything. So, i was making a small duffle bag and i could not for the life of me sew on the zipper. My dad heard me talking with my mom and just quipped in, "I'll come tomorrow morning and help you." because we had an open lab of sorts. (It was 7th grade) So he did. He came in the next morning and patiently taught me how to sew it on perfectly. Well, i got frustrated and almost started crying again so he just did it. My dad is a sucker for his children, let me tell you.

My father knows how to do everything and he also just knows everything. I try and emulate him in that sense as well. Planet Earth is also known as Joe vs David Attenburrough. He is who i go to when i need to know a random fact of information, because for some reason he always does. He is a jack of all trades and all of his children take pride in that. We all love him and look up to him.

My father is my adventure buddy. He is stale redvines, garage sales, rock hunting, exploring, chex mix, mountain dew, pickup trucks, country music, animal lover, and all sorts of happy things rolled up into a sturdy family loving man. He is a provider. He works hard for him family and loved ones- both spiritually and temporally. I didn't appreciate that enough growing up, but everything that i have is because of my father and mother. They provided a home for their children to grow up and to grow into ourselves.


Let me tell you a couple things i have learned and want in my future home because of my parents.

I have never doubted that my parents love each other. Oh gosh, they are so gross. SO GROSS. I hope to be that way. My dad is always slapping my moms butt as he walks by, kissing her when he gets back from work that some how turns into them making out as im yelling "NO STOP EW GUYS IM STILL HERE" while running away from the kitchen, my mom making eyes at my dad across the room, and they are always wrapping each other up in hugs. My children will never doubt how much i love my husband. Because even though i know my mom wants to kill my dad sometimes and visa versa, there is so much love in my home. My dad knows my moms language and visa versa and its really entertaining to watch them interact with each other. My mom is all talk, and my dad knows it. He rolls his eyes and kisses her.

They work together as a team. They support each other and help each other to be better. My mother makes my father fight for himself and my father grounds my mother. They work really well together even though they are polar opposites. My mother is a loud latin city girl and my father is a quiet introspective country man. They don't just make it work, they thrive. Have i seen my parents fight? Yes, i have. Have i seen them make up and become stronger together? Yes, i have. They communicate and work through things. When our family faces trials we face them together because my mother and father have raised us as a team. We always have each others back. My children will know that my husband is my best friend and that we are a team. Always and forever.

I remember i had to interview my mother for a paper i was writing and i asked her, "What is one thing that you hope you have taught your children?". Her answer was simple, "To have a relationship with Christ. That that's the most important thing they can have in this life." My family was not perfect at having FHE, reading scriptures, and saying family prayers all the time. I remember with clarity so many nights that we did though, and they were changing moments in my life. They were growing moments for my little seed of a testimony. My mother and father were always pushing me to grow Spiritually. When i told my dad that i wanted to receive my Endowment last year he told me, "That's my independent girl" and i took that to heart. My mother always asks me if i've prayed about stuff that we talk about or if i've gone to the Temple about it. Their greatest achievement is their children's spiritual happiness.

 My parents created a home where i always felt loved and never judged. I was free to be myself and to grow as Emily needed to. All of my friends that came over felt loved and open to be themselves no matter what. A home filled with love and acceptance is what i strive for. There was a night where Julia, one of my best friends, came over and we were blasting Journey. My sister was dancing around the kitchen with her daughter, Julia and I were signing and dancing, my mom was belting it super off key, and my dad and brother in law were laughing and joining us. It was such a perfect moment. If we wanted to try new things and explore hobbies, my parents were there supporting us. They suffered through so many concerts, plays, and sporting events. Bless them. I want to support and love my children through all of their hobbies. My husband as well, because i am stoked to get to know what he loves and love it too. That's how my parents are. My mom loves to knit, so my dad is there rolling balls of yarn beside her. My dad loves to work in the garden, so my mom is picking out flowers and sitting outside watching him and talking with him.

I love my parents. They are seriously some of the best humans ever. I could go on and on about how much i love them and how lucky my sisters and brother and i are. I know without a doubt that our family is forever and i would not have it any other way. The most important thing to me is my family, and thats because of my parents and how they raised us. They raised us to understand our Father in Heaven and His love for His children because of their love for each and every one of us. I've never questioned my Fathers love for me because my parents emulate it in all of their actions and words.

I have been blessed. Because of them i can't wait to one day start my own adventure.









Sometimes ,when life gets a bit much i have to step back and realize how grateful i am for the little things.


So, without further ado.....

Fluffs. 

I call cows Moos, and everything else is fluffs. Cats? Fluffs. Dogs? Fluffs. Small hamsters that are probably just satan? Evil fluffs. They bring me so much happiness and peace. I'm pretty sure that heaven will just be a bunch of fluffs that want to cuddle and play all the time.


This is Leo. He stops by about 5 times a week and meows impatiently until i feed him deli meat. Although he looks really angry in this picture he loves our apartment. He also enjoys stealing my heated blanket and demanding neck scratches. 

Sometimes i convince my friend to send my snapchats of his dogs. I promise that we are friends for more than his dogs...well... Dozer is a total punk, but such a love bug. He also gets scared pretty easily and makes me laugh a lot. Aria is the sweetest and biggest cuddle fluff you will ever meet. 

I don't have a picture of Tonks, but she is so playful and will give you all the kisses in the world. She's another fluff that has kept me grounded and sane the last couple of weeks. She is a pretty big derp and i love her. 

I've been blessed to have this fluff in my life since Summer, and my heavens i adore her. She steals my pillow when we have sleep overs, hates fireworks, and is the best adventure buddy out there. 

Tomorrow is going to be rough because i'm going home for the first time since losing my fluff. He was the fluff of all fluffs. Leaving him when i left for college was one of the hardest things i've ever done. He was my baby. We got him as a puppy and you never really knew where he was looking because his eyes looked both ways. He had such a personality and snored like an old man. I'm pretty sure the only thing he liked more than squirrels was cheese. 



Flannel.

If we are Snapchat friends you understand that i have an affinity for flannel. Actually, if you know me at all you know that that's a thing. And about 1/3 of my flannel isn't even mine, i've just acquired it over time. The other 2/3 are for sure from D.I. Flannel is happiness. That's not an opinion, that's a fact. If i'm having a rough morning: flannel. If i'm having a great day:flannel. Flannel brings so much comfort to my life. I don't even know when it started, probably about three years ago. Guys in flannel? Ayooooo. My winter/fall style is just t-shirts and flannel. In my defense, it's a step up from just animal t-shirts. My brother blames my animal shirts for my cat-lady status of being single.  It also makes my day when my friend and I's flannel matches, as pictured below. 


I've got my roommates addicted, and i have no regrets. NONE. 


Work.

Also, if we are Snapchat friends then you see a lot of my coworker who are some of the most solid people i know. I don't know if there is an aspect of my work environment that i don't like. Its a constant party and i get to be around plants and get paid for it. We are all super tight and talk about everything. From boys to Star Wars, its covered. Leaf fights, singing constantly, updating each other on our current drama, Chewy and Hans Solo every time we have to accelerate out of the tunnel, ridiculous puns, fantastic spiritual conversations, Sean's mad skill with kung fu, trashy techno Friday, country Wednesday, kung fu movies like Ip Man, and plants. So many plants. The stories literally never end. 

We played Jenga while cleaning up all the pansies. We get pretty competitive, but Sean won. Barely, might i add. 


My Roommates.

To say that i got lucky is a huge understatement. These five girls are some of my best friends and i am so thankful for each and everyone of them. They ground me more than they realize. I'm going home for a week and i'm going to miss them like crazy. Wether its reading scriptures out loud at  1 am and discussing how awkward King Lamoni is, making sure someone comes over to give me a blessing when i'm sick, jamming out in the morning to Les Mis, making the best cookies ever, or always being honest with me these girls are stellar. Anyone who knows them is better off for it. 


Brother. 

I love all of my family, if you know me you understand that they are the foundation of everything that i am. My brother...how do i even begin. There's 14 years between us but he's one of the most important humans in my life. He inspires me to push myself and face the hard things in my life. Wether its running- which sucks, just FYI- relationships, or spiritual things he is there rooting for me. #templeorbust







I'm grateful for a lot more than this, believe me. I could write an endless post for how blessed i am. There's a lot of humans in my life that i am blessed to know, who inspire me. Doctor Who. That's all. Music, my heavens music. I just can't put into words how much music means to me, so i'm not even going to try that yet. God has been so great to me, I am so filled with joy. Does it mean that it's been easy? Heavens no. It's been pretty great though. Pretty dang great. 

I'm coming up on my year mark of receiving my Endowment and I'll be in Oregon for a week, so get stoked for the next post. 












WARNING: Loads of pictures of girls without makeup having the time of their life. 

I mean, we had to get that out of the way first. This weekend was a couple weeks in the making and very much needed. Wanderlust is a word that is basically bolded and italicized in our vocabulary. We all get restless when we are in Provo for too long, or anywhere for that matter. I love that two of my friends get along and completely get me, its something that is beautiful and to be kept for a long time. 

So, the group texts started this entire endeavor. 

For those of you who don't personally know Katy and Ivy- they are hilarious. They keep me on my toes and are my adventures buddies. 

Friday night we got McDonalds, as any good roadtrip calls for, and hit the road. I was DJ, naturally, so the music was loud and lifting our energy as we drove south. We hit Saint George and settled into the condo- thank you Ivy's grandparents. 

The next morning our adventures started. We headed to Lytle Ranch, which is a happy place. Katy worked there a couple years ago for a Summer so she showed us her happy place. 


Pomegranate Orchards, i think that was one of my favourite things. Why? Because I am a little obsessed with Pomegranates. They are my favourite fruit ever and i love winter because that's when they are in season! So we picked a bunch of fresh pomegranates to eat the rest of the weekend. It was really entertaining to try and get the best ones down from the highest branches. Especially with the ranch dog, Oso, following us around. The sign outside said "Beware of Dog". Yes, beware of adorable dog that will lick you to death and lie on your feet until you scratch their stomach. He was a complete baby. There were two other dogs, a black lab and a chocolate lab. AND the equivalent of a warrior cat. He was so stocky and part of his foot was falling off, but he was a cuddle bug as most cats tend to be. There were turkeys walking around as well, but we only saw them from a distance. All in all, it's a place that i hope to come back to in the future.


Prophecy Wall

Let me explain to you my relationship with rock climbing....i just graduated the kiddie wall. When i get more than five feet up in the air my legs tend to turn to jello and my breathing does this thing where i refuse to breathe or i breathe way too much. I don't do heights. Jumping out of an airplane does not sound like fun to me, it sounds like a form of torture. 

This is where Ivy and Katy come in. Katy is obsessed, and Ivy isn't far behind her. Katy is constantly trying to get me to go to the Quarry with her or go up to Maple Canyon. Once my friends Braxton and Chris convinced me to go up Rock Canyon to climb with them....i made it up about 6 feet. 

So, why in the world was i hiking up to the Prophecy Wall? BECAUSE WHEN I HAVE FEARS I DO THIS STUPID THING CALLED FACE THEM. There is zero logic behind it, believe me, i've thought about it. Stubbornness? Yes. Pride? Oh yeah. I also do this thing that when people i care about are really passionate about something i like to educate myself. Sometimes that means trying really scary things, like, i don't know, rock climbing? 

Also, I'm all talk when i complain about things. I sat there on a rock, complaining about how my goal was to make it up 2 feet, how getting down would be the worst, and how i would never in a million years make it up to the top. The people who know me the best know that i am all talk. They let me complain, and then they put me in climbing gear and tell me to go. 

The first little jump is always the scariest. I breathed in and thought to myself, "C'mon, lets get up ten feet". So i did. Katy and Ivy were there telling me how proud of me they were, how far up i was, and if i needed to shift at all to the right or left for better hand holds. They were walking me step by step on how i just needed to stand, squatting would become my best friend, hips to the wall, and how important it was to find foot holds first. 

It was about half way up the wall when i understood why people loved it. It was about half way up the wall that i knew this wouldn't be my last route. It was about half way up the wall that i laughed to myself. Here's why i love it though: It was all a puzzle. It was a challenge of a sort that i have never faced. It was getting over my brain and letting my body tell me what it could and couldn't do. All i could think about was how the wall felt against my hands, how insane it was that i could hold on to such a small part of the wall, and how it was all about breathing. When my legs got shaky i just stretched them out or squatted and it went away. It was awkward in a lot of places, but it was so much fun. There were moments where i had to sit back and look at the wall infront of me to get a new vantage point to where the hand holds and foot holds i could use were.

 I think the best moment was when i was about 2/3 of the way up and i had the option to stop or keep going. I didn't even consider the option to stop, i just kept climbing. I laughed when i kissed the chain at the top of the route and then looked out at the view below. It was amazing and exhilarating and i'm going to do it again. 

Those girls got me up a wall, and I can't even tell them how much it meant to me. Rock climbing is still really intimidating, but i know that i can make it to the top. I know that i can face my fears and tell them exactly where to go. I know that i can do hard things. My body and i are buddies, and it tells me what it can and cant do- not my brain. 













So, with our legs turning into jello and our arms sore we headed back to the condo to watch WW2 documentaries and the Emperors New Groove and eat our cravings worth of taquitos, tater tots, and honey bbq chicken strips.

A Lava Tube or Two

Sunday morning we woke up all yawns and stretching. I'm not ashamed to say that i was definitely the last one up, heaven knows i needed sleep. Around ten, Katy and Ivy told me that i needed to turn my phone on airplane mode because today was a day to get back to myself and to be with the people i was with. I am, however, ashamed to say how connected i am to my phone. I need to work on that one, and they knew that. The thing i love the most about Katy and Ivy is that they push me to do and be better in a lot of aspects of my life. 

So, we got in the car, said goodbye to the condo, and headed to Snow Canyon State Park. Ivy knew about a spelunking expedition that was really quick that we wanted to explore. Caves? Those are my jam. I don't know why, but they fascinate me. Crouching down and crawling in some spaces? That's cool. I can do that, as long as they are big enough. Having to jump down to get to the next level? Nope. Nope, nope, nope, hard pass. Because i know that if i have to jump down then i also have to get back up. 

These girls could probably talk me into murder if they tried hard enough. That's how much i trust them. I don't forsee that in our future, so no worries on becoming a serial killer. BUT they did talk me down a jump at the very beginning of the cave. Did i complain? Yes. Because if i don't my brain goes a little crazy and thinks of every horrible possible thing that could go wrong. So instead of that, i talk. They understand that i'm all talk though. They are honestly two of the most patient people in the world, and i adore them. 

We explored the caverns and i fell in love with the rocks. I have a thing for rocks. Where does it come from? Probably rock hounding with my dad when i was little and my fascination over how rocks are formed. Rocks. Man, i could write an entire post on rocks. I'll spare you though. Also, probably Planet Earths section on Caves...although that was a really gross one filled with cockroaches. 

I digress. It was super fun, and the entire time we were talking about a Zombie Apocalypse and who would be on our team. We discussed this in great detail. We also discussed where we would set up camp, but that discussion lasted the entire day. We also discussed genomes and how they found a saber tooth tiger cub in Russia. We don't do small talk. It's highly overrated. 

There was a moment that i want to touch on though, it was when i was alone for a couple of minutes. Ivy and Katy decided to go a little deeper and jump down to another part, but i opted out of going down another jump. I ran my hands over the Lava tube and was just struck by how amazing Heavenly Fathers creations are. He is aware of every little bubble in that formation. In that moment i was aware of how much He loved me. If He is aware of just a little bubble i was humbled by how aware He is of one of His children. He is in the details over everything in my life, and i am grateful for a loving Father. 

The beginning
 Ivy, probably laughing at me or something that i said. I also probably cussed at her during this moment. 


Asians, asians for days. 

I was really really happy to have made it up that jump at the beginning. 



We blasted this song on the way to Zions. [And the entire weekend]

Zions National Park

This was my first time and i was really really really excited. I was excited to be outside and to hike with two of my best friends. As soon as we entered the park i knew that i was in love. I was in love with all the colours and how everything just bore testimony of a loving God. It bore testimony of how the earth is for the joy of His children. When i am out in nature i feel very close to my Father. It's the same for Katy and Ivy. The outdoors is our Temple in a way. It's where we find peace and understanding. 

We took the Tram because i had never been to the park. I was in awe of every bend of the river, every deer, and every part of the canyon looming above me. If you haven't been, go. Just go. 

I opted out of Angels Landing, because you know, death. Weirdly enough, 21 switch backs don't sound like the greatest time to me. But one day i'll probably end up hiking at least part of it. Knowing Katy and Ivy. To the very top, nah, i'm good. Why? BECAUSE THERE ARE DROPS OFF ON EITHER SIDE OF YOU AND ALL YOU HAVE TO HOLD ON TO IS CHAINS. I rather enjoy my existence.

So, we hiked the Weeping Rock trail first. Really chill hike that teaches you a lot about plants. Now, for those of you who know me- that's my kind of trail. The ferns were so beautiful! Everything was beautiful! All of the green reminded me of Oregon and made me want to hike all over Oregon. Maybe next summer i'll take a trip home so i can dedicate the time needed to explore. Who knows?

 The lighting was to die for. 
 Oregon grape sign! 






Next up was the Emerald Pools. We hiked really chill hikes because it was Sunday and we wanted to enjoy nature.

"Let's just go to the bottom pools"
"Yeah, sounds good"

I don't know why i ever trust these girls. Mixed messages right, because all i keep talking about is how much i trust them. THEY ARE DEVIOUS LITTLE SUCKERS. Mostly because they know what will make me happy even when i complain, like i said, i'm all talk. {I'm working on not complaining at all, its a work in progress}

So, we made it to the first pools. Which were beautiful. Shocker, i know.


 This is us hiking to the second pools, only part of a mile. No big deal. 

Second pools, beautiful. The lookout was to die for. That's when they just kept walking and i thought to myself, "I've done this to myself. I knew they weren't going to stop at just the lower pools. This is Katy and Ivy we are talking about". They explained Halo, Zelda, DragonAge, and a couple other video game plots to me. We talked more about Zombies. We discussed books and ideas. It was fantastic. 






 Eh, i guess the view was alright.

 BUT REALLY, GUYS IT WAS BEAUTIFUL. This is honestly one of my favourite hikes ever. The trail was beautiful, the views were beautiful, and it was the absolute best. Favourite part of Zions, at least so far. Goals- Hike part of the Narrows, make it up part of Angels Landing, and explore that river.

We made it to the top and i perched on top of a rock for a moment as i looked around me. It was a little alcove softly filled with the sounds of birds, people, and water. Tucked away perfection is what it was.



For part of the way down i jumped from rock to rock because i was alone. I had time to think about what i wanted from my future adventures and what i had learned that weekend. I have surrounded myself with some pretty awesome people, and i'm grateful that Heavenly Father has blessed me with them in my life. I'm grateful for a Father who had made a huge playground for me. I'm grateful for people who don't listen to me when i complain but push me to things that they know will make me happy. I'm grateful for patient people. I'm grateful for adventure buddies. I'm grateful for my testimony of my Father and the love He has for His children. It was something i was humbled by as i looked around at all the different people we met this weekend, and even those we just saw in passing. He is aware of each and every one of us and loves us so much.

This adventure didn't suddenly solve all of my problems, but it made my soul peaceful. My body was sore- but a good kind of sore. A kind of sore where my body was thanking me for letting it have fun. My body was sore but my soul was happy. It's one of the greatest feelings in the world.

Then Katy and Ivy caught up and i will never forget this guys face when we rounded a bend talking loudly about the Zombie Apocalypse. I wanted to run down that trail, that's how happy i was.

 I need more adventures in my life. I'm a wee bit addicted. So, for now, i'm collecting adventure buddies.





One of the most humbling and uplifting experiences I've had to date is to ask some of the people closest to me to write a letter to my future husband.

I didn't give them any rules, i just asked them to write it. As i read through them i might have cried a little, because these women understand and see parts of me that i sometimes don't. I have surounded myself with some pretty phenomenal women through the years and it shows through their words.

So here are their letters to my future husband. 

Sammi

Almost ten years ago i was goofing off during a dance rehearsal and made a best friend. She's the one who taught me how to put on makeup and how to basically flirt with guys. She shared everything with me; thoughts, family, and sometimes boys. Once, it happened once, and there was two years between the time we dated the same guy. She's the one who runs through rain with me and puddle jumps like a 5 year old. Because that's needed. She also makes really good tea. I keep her long time. 

To whom it may concern:
I'm 4 months away from claiming 10 whole years of best friendship with this woman who will be your wife. So, I can claim a little bit of expertise in the Emily Belshe department. In 3 years, we will have been best friends for half our lives and as the years roll on and you bring children into the world, along with me and my husband, we'll move into one of those "lifetime" friendship categories.

However, if there is one thing I have learned about marriage, it is that you truly marry your best friend. And so, knowing that, I know that I will have to hand that title to you. (Though, I'm still keeping the "best girl friend" and "best childhood friend". You can't have those. Sorry 'bouts it.) In this letter, I am officially entrusting that sacred title to you.

Along with "best friend", there are a few other titles that come along with marriage to this wonderful woman.

- Protector: The heart that Emily has entrusted to you is the strongest, most fragile heart I know of. It is because it has been broken many times, and instead of giving up, she has stuck it out, and rebuilt her heart one piece at a time. A rebuilt heart knows the cost of loving and losing, yet chooses to love anyway. This is the heart she possesses. This is the heart she has given to you. Protect it. Treasure it. Show her that, to you, it is the most precious gift in the universe. If you've gotten this far in your relationship, then you know that loyalty is one of her best qualities. She holds on and doesn't let go. She will never turn her back on you. No matter the mistakes you have made in your life, if you are moving forward and you promise to keep her heart safe, she won't ask more from you.

- Playmate: Emily has the soul of a 5-year-old. Really. Dinosaur noises. That's all. By those two words, you should know exactly I mean. Love her free soul. Coloring books, blanket forts, goldfish crackers - the children's section in the library. These are things that will bring out her inner child. She will be the greatest other in the world because she finds just as much joy in these things as children do. (Maybe more.) Until then, she needs someone to be a child with her. And then, when the kids come along, you bet your best buttons that she will expect you to continue the simple joys of  childhood with her and your children. She is someone you can enjoy doing pretty much anything with - even eating dinosaur shaped chicken nuggets and Capri Sun.

- Adventurer/Curious Explorer: As explained previously, you married a free soul. This will require adventuring of all sorts. Camping, travelling, 3 a.m. runs to get pizza. Take her outside - to breathe. Far away from civilization. Free from distractions and cell phone reception, so she can recharge her soul. Take her to a city she's never been. Try new food. Indulge her in her current obsessions. A few years ago, it was collecting records. Right now, it's learning plants. (Always books. That's a given.) Take her home. Let her show you the city she loves through her eyes. Be wild and crazy with her family. Take her to your family home. Show her your world. Create your own world together, wherever you choose.

- Comforter: 3 letters that will save you T E A. For reals. Tea is her go-to. Just like you. When her days are hard, ask about it. And make tea. When she's ready to tell you, she will. Hold her close. Kiss her softly. Be gentle with her soul. Do what you can. Sometimes you will be able to fix her problems, but other times you will not. Her heart will ache and yours will ache for her, but hold her and be her rock and time will do the rest.

-Spiritual Leader: The gospel of Jesus Christ is the most important thing in Emily's life. She leans on her Savior and clings to Him for dear life. I have been blessed to watcher her and help her on this journey just as much as she has helped me. It's your turn. Together, with the Savior, you will raise a righteous family. Take leadership. Call for family prayer, Family Home Evening, study scriptures together. These are requirements for your family - things she has always planned on. Take her to the temple. Return and remember those covenants you made to God and each other. Hold her up when she struggles and she will do the same for you.

I hope you know these titles I am passing on to you are not unreciprocated (yeah, I just made that word up). Emily will protect your heart, indulge in your joys, comfort you in times of need and be your spiritual anchor and partner. It's something that comes with the territory of marriage. By now, you should have learned many of her quirks - her love of flannel and beanies, and weird desire to wear lipstick with the flannel and beanies (and all other clothing), her love (that word doesn't quite cover it) of books, her inability to keep goldfish alive, her pride of being El Salvadoran (pupusas anyone?), and I repeat, dinosaurs noises. She'll learn your quirks - you might have different taste in music, you might hate rain (I really hope you don't), you may have a weird obsession with Thai food or a mole on your left elbow shaped like a turkey. Whatever her quirks and yours, the most important thing is that you love each other and are willing to make a run at eternity. If you put the Savior first, and each other's needs ahead of your own, eternity will be the most joyous thing in all of ....well... eternity.

And so, it is with great joy that I pass these titles on to you. Keep them well.

Love,
Samantha Hogge

Katy

This woman has seen me through a lot as well. She is the one who is patient enough to coach me up the rock wall when my limbs are shaking beyond belief. She's the one who has helped my wanderlust on so many occasions by taking me to see new places. Some of the most raw conversations have happened as i've sat in her passenger seat. She gets that sometimes i don't need words, i just need presence. She also understands my ridiculous need for shameless cuddles. 

To the man Emily has chosen to marry,

You already know what you're getting yourself into by now, considering you asked the game-changing question. By now you've realized you're about to commit Eternity to this woman. Let that sink in for a moment. Wait. Keep letting that soak. Breathe. Okay.

It's a wonderful feeling, isn't it? Because you're getting one of the great ones. Eternity is what you want, what Emily deserves. It's what you deserve too. And Emily can give that to you. You will be hard pressed to find a more loyal, caring, faithful, and loving woman. You'll never doubt that she loves you. But don't use that as an excuse to make her angry. Don't test that. You will lose. Accept that now. If you've been searching for someone on God's side, you know by now that you've found her. Plus, you get the added bonus of her fantastically diverse personality. You get humor, laughs, giggles, ab-busting chortles, and did I mention she's hilarious? On top of that, she'll always be there for you and down for an adventure. Never stop taking her on adventures. 

Speaking of adventures, you're about to start the best and longest one with one of the best travel buddies. Keep fueling her desire for adventure and you won't regret it. Challenge each other to be better. Hold true to her and God. Because you can be sure that she will be true to you and already is true to God. Be patient, kind, and understanding with her. She is no more perfect than you are. Be open. Emily is incredibly easy to be open with and will always make you feel accepted, while still encouraging you to be and do better. Having that open communication with her is going to be the best reward to your adventure together. The things you're going to learn from her, about her, about yourself, those are priceless. Take it from someone who knows. 

Emily has already had incredible experience making a measurable difference in the lives of those around her. Get excited. You're next. Do us a favor though, and take care of her to the best of your abilities. And when your abilities fall short, fall to your knees. She needs you and your prayers. She needs your love and companionship. She needs you. She has a tenancy to exhaust herself. Be there to slow her down when she'd running too fast. Be there to catch her when she falls. Figuratively and literally, because she can sometimes be a bit clumsy. Your shoulder better always be available to her. Please keep in mind she has an army behind her and if you ever hurt or neglect her then you will be unleashing more fury than you can imagine. You have been warned, Not that you need it, since you've decided that she's the one you want to spend Eternity with already. But it never hurts to know you've got people holding you accountable. It keeps you honest. 

She is going to be your best friend, if she isn't already. Don't forget that. Don't let monotony set in and don't lose sight of what you love about her. The same goes for Emily. Both of you, never give up on each other, on God, on your families, on your dreams. Be accountable to each other. Be patient, even when you don't want to be. Be what the other deserves. Be what you deserve. Keep those smiles. Don't fall for the false lure of perfection. You don't need it. You need each other's quirks. You need the imperfections to grow. You need the journey just as much as you want the destination. Swallow your pride. Be the bigger person. Take counsel from one another willingly, but don't be cynical. Constructive criticism is a good thing, but meanness has no place in a marriage. Continue to pick each other up, always. Stay close, to each other and to your families. And she's a keeper. We all look forward to watching you two grow.

Hopefully you're getting more excited everyday to marry and remain married to Emily. She is a beautiful soul and you must be pretty amazing yourself if she picked you. Congratulations on finding your eternal companion. Congratulations on the life you will spend together. Chin up buddy. You got this. You got the girl.  

Sincerely,
Katy 

Eden

This woman though. She's the one currently sleeping in the bunk above me. The one who constantly laughs at the fact that i talk and laugh in my sleep. She's my midnight buddy, who i go to when my brain wont stop thinking at midnight. I knew the moment i met her that she would be important, i mean, i guess thats why i asked her to live with me the second time i met her. She's a spiritual giant and inspires me every day. I adore her. 

To the man who holds her heart:
When you were little and learning numbers, were you ever told to “count the beans”? and one by one the beans would be counted and put back in the jar and you’d be on your way? Well Emily, she’s not a bean counter, she makes soup. She’ll be the chef as she learns to count. She’ll be off on an adventure with those beans, though everyone else just sees a pile of beans to be counted.
Emily sees the typical and makes it all an adventure! She thrives on new experiences and adventures (just the word “adventure” makes her smile and light up and her energy automatically rises…and then she takes you with her). She’ll surprise you continuously, you can count on it. Life with Emily won’t be dull in any way, but it will be reliable and faith-filled.
She is a good one, she sees God in all things and is close to the spirit. Trust her. Cherish her. You stand in a place of honor and respect because she chose you. She is an elect lady. So know you must be a pretty darn awesome guy (don’t let that get to your head).
Hug her often, tell her she’s beautiful. She’s tough but sensitive. Take her longboarding at least once a week and don’t indulge her cocacola habit too much. Listen closely to what she says, but don’t be afraid to state your opinion and counter her. Trust her, she’ll follow through. Let her love the kitties, let her paint the walls, be interested in her hobbies and share your thoughts with her. Let her serve you. Don’t be perfect.
You’ll have grand time with this one! Be yourself always and her heart will forever be yours. And remember, she’s not just a bean counter, she makes soup.

Kristina

She know the best jokes that make me laugh the hardest- aka the cheesiest. She is always fun to be around and the absolute best teacher I've ever met. She is another one of my late night buddies because when we talk it matters. She's the one who sits with me on the kitchen floor when im upset and drinking tea. She brings perspective in the most refreshing ways, especially of the Spiritual type.


To Whom it May Concern:

Hot dang, I hope you realize what a lucky guy you are. Emily is hilarious, fun, smart, beautiful, sassy, and packs quite the spiritual punch. Basically, she's awesome. You clearly picked a winner, so I've got to congratulate you on your taste in women.

I hope you know this by now, because you want to marry this girl, but Emily likes to adopt random animals that show up at the doorstep, she sings loudly at odd hours of the night, and she drinks copious amounts of tea. So consider yourself forewarned about what you're getting yourself into. I hope you like Josh Groban/hipster bands/Les Miserables/party music/pretty much every type of music, because you will definitely be hearing it a lot. If you don't like it, you have no business marrying Emily, because what even do you have in common? Just kidding, if you don't like it, I'm sure you're a wonderful person, and you two love each other deeply. (But really, you should like music a lot.)

You must be a pretty stellar guy if Emily wants to spend eternity with you, so congratulations on that. Keep it up, and remember that Emily is amazing. She will give you so much love and support, and make every day a wonderful, funny, spontaneous adventure. It sounds cliche, but take good care of her, because she deserves it.

You, sir, are amazing! Good luck embarking on this new stage of your life, you're going to love it!

Kristina Bohman (Emily's roommate)

Arielle

This is my little one. Her and I became friends when i climbed into bed with her and said "Oh, hey, hope that we are on this level, because if we arent we are now". She gets my obsession with movies and put up with my sporadic taste in music. I think my favourite way to wake her up was with a puppy. She is so supportive and full of love. Watching her grow is one of my greatest blessings. 

Dearest Future Hobo,
You have got the best girl I’ve ever known. Her quality is not often found in this world. She is not just a unicorn, she’s a damn Pegasus. She continually shows me kindness and helps me grow. I would have withered without her. She showed me how to thrive, she’s got a green thumb, that one. I tear up just thinking about her. She is very unique and it took me a long time to truly appreciate every single facet she has. She is kind, funny, wicked intelligent, marvelous, childlike, energetic, moody, introspective, spontaneous, and down to earth. I could literally go on for eternity. Which is the amount of time you will have with her, if you play your cards right. ;) I’m sure you are every ounce her equal. I would not have let her go through with this otherwise. Emily is to be cherished, pushed, understood, and just loved. Placing your heart in her hands is the best decision you will ever make. Emily has a fierce love that she wants to share with everyone and it is not to be taken lightly. Emily has built up a fort around her heart. It has twinkly lights, big blankets, and pillows galore. Oh! And books. You cannot forget the books. Reading books, coloring books…you name it. This place is very sacred to her and she might retreat from you and spend a long time in said fort. Do not be alarmed. This time is necessary for her AND for you. You can coax her out of the fort, but never force her out of the fort. That is not nice. Emily will give you the world, but you also need to fulfill her needs. She needs lots of outside time (not unlike the 5 dogs y’all will have), alone time, cuddle time, forehead kisses, cooking together, and be sure to spend a lot of time raising and teaching your kids. Lastly, and most importantly, walk hand in hand with your Emily toward Heavenly Father. Always chase that goodness because she will be.
Love,
Arielle


Ivy

She's my adventure buddy, esepcially when it means Hobble Creek. She asks important questions and is one of the best listeners i've been blessed with. People are often confused by our friendship and it brings us great joy. It's the perfect mix of an Introvert and an Extrovert. Music is meant to be blasted, and she understands this. She gets the different parts of me- one part country one part city girl. She is one of the most understanding and caring people i have had the pleasure to meet. She's one of the best people and i'm so thankful to call her a best friend.


Dear Future Husband of my best friend Emily:
The truth is, I probably don’t like you. I trust Emily to make the right choice and all, but what you have is special, and I don’t know if I know of anyone who is special enough to have her for the rest of their life. I’m not scary, and I’m not tall and I can’t really do anything to you, but I want you to know that I love Emily and the fact that I’m letting you marry her means that you might not be as bad as I tend to think you are.
Know, son, that there is a gauntlet that you must walk. There are things that you must do. Emily loves you heart and soul and I know that you know how important that is. But when she agreed to share a life with you, it doesn’t mean that there are two lives who are working together. What it means is that you became one life. Your life is her life and her life is your life and I don’t mean that you live in each other’s lives. I mean your life is your life, “your” being defined as You and Emily. This is you and Emily’s singular life.
So I want to offer you some advice to keep your life happy.
Kiss your life on the nose every once and a while.
When she teaches you how to do pigtails on your little girl, it is okay if the pigtails are crooked. She doesn’t care if you are perfect. She only cares if you try.
If you don’t like tea, give up on that. You love tea now.
Let her sit on your lap and let her tell you about her day and then tell her about a song that would have been the perfect sound track to that part of the day.
Come home with dirty hands from fixing things. Have a passion and let her share in it. Even if you could just do something faster yourself, let Emily help. She wants to help you. She wants to be part of what you’re doing. She loves people for their passions. She makes them hers.
Read books to her. Use different voices for each character. She’ll probably help you. In fact, just buy two copies of each book your read so that you can read them together.
If you walk in on her doing mommy-like things, just hang out in the door and watch her in her element. You are helping her fulfil a life dream.
Make sure that she has a dog. (This one is a selfish one and a subtle reminder that she promised to name her golden retriever after me.)
I want you to know that you don’t have to prove your love to Emily. Emily loves unconditionally and just because she can. But when you fight, let her know when the fight is over. Give her closure. And then bury the hatchet.
Instead of buying her cut flowers, just get her a potted version of the same thing.
When the family gets together, I hope that you are the kind of man that will go around with Cristina and take pictures with Abuelita. Watch her with happy eyes and then drag her out onto the dance floor to dance with her crazy family.
Be the kind of dad that will have the kid’s friends in the house. Be the kind of religious leader that your kids can go to and can look up to; if some of your kids have friends that don’t have dads, know that you are now their father, because Emily will be their second mother.
Take adventures. You just married the most willing and able adventurer ever. Take her to misty rocks and just sit on them. Ask important questions. Don’t talk bad about her to her friends and help your friends say only good things about their spouses as well.
Again, Emily does not care about perfection. She cares about growing and loving, and luckily, you can do that together. I don’t need to tell you how lucky you are. You know. And I don’t need to tell Emily how lucky she is. She knows.
Love,
Ivy
Cristina

She is the most important person to me that walks this earth. When men break my heart or frustrate me she is my first call. When i am going through ANYTHING she is the first one i call. I call her about 3 times a day. She is the one who grounds me and helps me to see things clearly. She is my protector and loves me more than anyone ever has- except for maybe my parents. I have her for eternity and I am so grateful for that. She is my sister. She makes me laugh harder than anyone should have the power to and frustrates me more than anyone ever has.


Dear Emily’s future husband,

Welcome to the family. Since you are still here, it means you are up to muster and have survived the family. That is no small feat. Now you are stuck, I mean blessed, with Emily for time and all eternity. Things are going great, you are all in love and mushy and glowing and stuff right now, it’s kinda gross, but I suppose I understand. We too, were that way. And still are for the most part. I want you to know what a lucky man you are. I know that you feel that way now, but even in the future when she is driving you crazy, you are still a lucky man. My sister may be a pain in the behind sometimes, but she is a good woman. But she is also very delicate. She would like you to think she can take it all on and be fine and that she doesn’t need help or can handle whatever life throws her way. Don’t get me wrong, she can, but she is going to need you to be there to help hold her up and strengthen her and sometimes to be there while she cries. Let her cry, or snuggle her until she does. She needs to let it out more often than she does.  Don’t kid yourself, she’ll hold you while you cry when you need it too. And you will, more often than you want to, but it’s good to let it out. I am sure she will snuggle you as well. Ew. Anyway. Someone once told me that marriage is never 50/50, one of you will always be taking or giving more at any certain time. Trials will come to you where you can only give 20 and she will be giving you 80. Other times she will need your 75 because 25 is all she can muster. It will always be like that, be willing to give your part regardless of how much it is, with love and graciousness. You have married into an awesome family. We always talk and know each other’s business. Don’t worry, we will love you anyway, and I hope you will do the same. I realize there will be some stuff kept between the two of you, but know that she will need friends to vent to or bounce ideas off of and it won’t mean that you aren’t her best friend, because if you have made it this far, then you are. It just means she has others who love her and want her to be happy and know her, for the moment, a tad bit better then you do. And that’s okay. As you grow and spend life together you will know the parts of her that have changed as you have grown together. And that’s as it should be. But until then, it’s okay that we can tell when she is upset if you can’t yet. You’ll learn. Now to you. Obviously you are temple worthy. Let’s keep it that way. Of course in your head you are thinking, duh! But life is a test and sometimes we mess up. Get back on that horse buddy and keep going. She will love you regardless of your mistakes, as you will love her regardless of hers. The important part is to repent and keep going. Stay worthy to go to the one place that will bring you ultimate peace and comfort. Go to the temple regularly, the apostles say once a month. Sounds easy, but it’s not. Life gets in the way if you let it. Don’t let it. Stay worthy of your priesthood. Again, duh, but again, life happens and it can be hard.  Always apologize. Sometimes it may not be your fault, or you may not think you are at fault, but apologizing can open the gates of communication. Holy cow, that is the hardest thing in the world when you get married! Communication!!! Everyone, every family, does it differently and you are meshing two completely different people into one family. Just talk about everything. Even finances. You might as well get that out in the open in the beginning. Some things will be uncomfortable to talk about at first, but just keep doing it. Don’t get mad at the stupid stuff. You will. But then you need to get over it. If she’s pissed, tackle her, tickle her, cry and just snuggle her. It works for me! But really, work things out. The whole, never go to bed angry thing, ya know what? If you are that mad, maybe you need to cool off over night. I think the rule should be don’t say anything out of anger you will regret in the morning. Tell her you love her, make out or whatever, then talk in the morning. Or later that night. Ew. And you will get angry. Don’t be a jerk about it. Be careful with her, she says mean things fast to win the argument, but you don’t get to do that. Really she shouldn’t either, but that’s a habit she will have to break with you. While she dishes it out, she can’t take it. And I don’t mean that in a snide way. I mean it in the, you love her so be aware that you can hurt her and don’t do it, way. You know what it’s like to be hurt by those you love, and you know that the scars of others words and actions last far longer and go far deeper than any physical injury you have received. Don’t give her scars. Or I really will be mad at you and not like you. We all come with baggage. You have some, she has some. Some of the stuff you may have dealt with and some will come roaring back to life later on in your marriage. It’s okay. EVERYONE HAS ISSUES!!! The difference between those who have healthy marriages and those that don’t last is the willingness of you and your spouse to deal with those issues. That may mean counseling, alone and together, it may mean medication. You know what? Whatever it takes. There will be times in your marriage that are hard, again, life’s a test. Lean on the Lord and on each other and get help if you need it. And you probably will, so just get help. I know it feels like you will just love each other to pieces and can’t imagine ever being angry or making a wrong decision or hurting her, but it will happen and that’s okay. It’s where you go from there that matters. I mean, it’s not okay, but you can repent. Follow the guidance of the prophets and general authorities. They know what they are talking about. It’s going to take work, but then again, most things worth having in this life do. I also heard another great piece of advice, “People who spend money on experiences are happier then people who spend money on things.” Don’t get into debt. If you can help it, don’t do it! It really is a vice and it doesn’t feel good or do you any good either. Have fun with each other, don’t watch too much t.v., laugh with each other, go to church with each other, have water fights-not food, that sucks to clean up, have laundry fights, do the hard stuff together, serve her and love her, she is your ticket to heaven. And when things suck, fake it till you make it. You will make it, she’ll make you make it!  Remember who she is, her potential, her amazingness. And if you forget, remind yourself again. Talk about kids, about how you want them to grow up. Set standards in your home now so that you can have the spirit with you to guide you in guiding them. Take the time to keep the spirit in your home. Don’t come home cranky. Or go to your room until you can be happy. If she has been home with the kid(s) and managed not to kill them then don’t come in all pissy and ruin the mood. Totally not worth it. The best thing in the world you can do for your children is to love their mama to pieces. They will watch and learn from you. Always, they are always watching. It will always be her above them, and that’s okay, she’s your eternal companion-they are just exchange students who need the education you can give while they are with you. Teach them while they are young, talk about the gospel in your home. Don’t be ashamed or nervous or worried about what they will say when you are out or if they will offend others by repeating what they learned in family home evening.  Their little souls need the gospel, even when they are too young to understand it, they feel the spirit and that is what they need. Make sure you are the kind of dad that gives that to them, it’s not all up to Emily. Really? Just love each other, make one another your priority and it will be okay. I love you and I am grateful for anything and everything you needed to go through and do to be the one to take Emily to the temple. She is special. Treasure her. Love her. Love the Lord. Follow Him and you will never go wrong.

Love,

Your new sister, Cristina


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